
I am not reading books in any particular order for this project, so I have been delighting in the themes that emerge across seemingly unrelated books. As I read Eleanor and Park by Rainbow Rowell, Telling Secrets by Frederick Buechner, and Tattoos on the Heart by Gregory Boyle I found myself reflecting on compassion.
I’m going to start with secrets – a bit of my life story. When I was in the 8th grade, I was sentenced to what turned out to be 2 ½ years wearing a Milwaukee brace for scoliosis. Life with the brace was very different than life before. I wish I could say that it wasn’t really bad (I know my parents still feel bad about this), but it was terrible. People constantly stared at me or asked inappropriate questions. My “friends” disappeared or began to bully me. You know it’s bad when you can’t even go to church without hearing nicknames or being pushed to the ground “because it’s funny to watch a kid in a brace try to get back up.” There were really only a few people that made fun of me (loud enough that I could hear), but their banter was constant. My nicknames included “hunchback”, “neck”, “crip”, and “old ironsides” (which I have to admit is fairly creative). What hurt more than the people who made fun of me, were the “friends” who never stood up for me. Even when my PE class spent an hour spitting on my back! Not a single person suggested that they stop – and certainly no one told me that I was being used for this foul target practice. Even as horrible as all of this seems, I don’t regret it. It sounds cliché, but it really did shape me. Compared to the experiences of many, these experiences are nothing! Why bother sharing these secrets?
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